How to feel safe in unsafe times: find safety in your body

Find safety in your body

Mama Mia… here we go again.  As another wave of Covid-19 hits Australia, it feels like we will never get back to ‘normal’ life again.  This week someone said to me “it feels like I’m looking at a tsunami wave coming towards me, but there’s no point even trying to run away – you won’t make it, there is nowhere safe.”  Many of my clients are suffering from anxiety and not feeling safe in their world.  When the world around you is spinning, the only place you can find safety is in your body.  Your body is a ‘resource’ to help you feel safe again and reduce the symptoms of anxiety.


Here are my favorite ways to find safety in your body:

1. Grounding your feet

When we get anxious, we often lose contact with our bodies. One of the quickest ways to ‘get back into your body’ is to focus on the contact with the ground. 

There are approximately 200,000 sensory nerves on the soles of your feet.  They sense pressure, texture, temperature, and more. Sensory nerves send chemical information to the brain on the status of the environment around you. Telling your brain whether the environment is safe or unsafe. So let’s use those nerves to tell your brain that your body is safe.  

Here’s a super short video teaching you how to ground into your feet (3 min video):

If you can go outside and touch the earth with your bare feet that’s brilliant. But even letting your feet contact the carpet or tiles is enough. 

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2. Touch, hugging, and holding yourself

Sometimes when we get anxious or feel unsafe, we mentally disconnect from our bodies. Applying gentle pressure on our sensory nerves through touch, holding, and hugging is a quick way to remind your brain that you have a body beneath your neck. And tell your nervous system that you are safe again. (4 min video)


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3. Diaphragmatic breathing

Yoga, Pilates, and Body Psychotherapy all have one thing in common – deep diaphragmatic breathing. We can override our nervous system – press the reset button if you like – with deep diaphragmatic breathing.   When we breathe deeply, the long slow exhale tells our nervous system that it can switch back into the ‘rest and digest’ parasympathetic state.  That it is safe.  Here’s my favorite technique (8 min video)

Here are some other simple types of calming diaphragmatic breathing:

Square breathing

4-7-8 breathing

If you want to find out more about why we experience these physical symptoms in anxiety, have a look at my FREE e-book “Three Easy Ways to Reduce Your Anxiety”.  It’s an instant download and there is a bonus video and audio recording to help you do the exercises.

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I hope this guide helped you find safety in your body, and feel a whole lot less anxious.


What to do next

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