The modern woman’s program for navigating the f*ckery of mid-life

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Evviva!

/e’vvːiva/ = Hurray! To life!

Evviva! regain your zest for life

Find your va-va voom in 60 seconds!

How do you want to feel right now: Powerful? Playful? Present?
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Does this sound familiar?

“Nothing was exciting me. Am I alive? Is this really what life’s gonna be? I think especially when you have kids, you have this routine of things that just need to get done. And you forget to do the things that make you feel alive. It’s just too hard.”

“I felt like there was no real joy in my life. I’d been feeling like I needed to do something more fun. What am I doing? When was the last time I laughed?”

 

“Somewhere along the way I let go of my own hopes and dreams in order to look after everyone else. Now I’m 48 and I’m in peri-menopause and I’m effing furious. I feel anxious, old, and alone in this. Is it too late for me?”

Are you exhausted from looking after everyone else?

Would 16 year-old you recognise the woman you’ve become?

Do you fear that it’s too late to get ‘you’ back?

Exhausted and burnt-out

as your nervous system reels from having to cope with life, work, responsibilities and now your hormones going wobbly or awol

Resentful or angry

with others, and yourself because you haven’t followed your dreams

Anxious or depressed

one of the many wonderful side effects of menopause and peri-menopause

Worried

that if you DO try something that you want you will be laughed at or rejected by others

Invisible

as society’s gaze turns to your more youthful counterparts. Ignored, unseen, unheard

Lost and adrift

without a defined purpose in society now that you are no longer of ‘breeding age’

It’s about damn time that mid-life and menopause got a rebrand

 

I don’t know about you, but the phrase ‘middle-aged’ makes me think of peasants in fifth century England eating turnips.

Menopause still feels like a word that should be uttered under your breath in polite company (along with gusset, merkin and moist).

“Autumn Queen” makes me think of the Golden Girls.

 

None of these words gel with my personal experience of my 40s and 50s.

We need to re-write what it means to be a woman in these middling years.

Shifting the narrative away from it being ‘crazy lady time’ and rebrand mid-life and menopause as a time where you step into your power, experience and queenly energy.

 

 

Taking you from burnt-out beige to the technicolour possibilities of your mid-life

How would you like to feel this year?

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Calmer and with more energy

Evviva will teach you how to turn down the volume on the external world and turn UP the volume on your internal world. Slowing things down, calming the farm to decrease your level of anxiety and stress. Finding ways of resting that resonate with YOU.

More confident and connected to your inner knowing

Reconnecting with your heart and your gut instinct – that inner sense of ‘knowing’ – so that you move forward confidently in life by listening to your own wisdom, so that you feel more at ease with yourself and your life.

Living a life aligned with your strengths, values and needs

You are already ‘enough’. It’s just that the pressures from society and the frantic pace of life have caused you to disconnect from your inner voice, your needs and dreams. Evviva will help you crystalise your core strengths, values and your needs, so that you start living a life that is aligned with YOU.

Being unapologetically YOU

Standing up for yourself and learning how to hold your boundaries with kindness and compassion and try out your “no”. Backing yourself and putting your needs up there as equal to others.

Dropping the ‘good girl’ mask and telling perfectionism to p*ss off. Showing the world more of who you really are, and trying out things that truly light you up inside.

Experiencing more fun, play and vibrancy

Woo hoo YOUR favorite ways of having REAL fun, playfulness and connection. Perhaps with a smidge of rebellion! Connecting with others in ways that fill you up, not deplete you.

Ready to rediscover the vibrant woman within you?

Listen to your inner voice, and

Become more unapologetically YOU?

Here’s what past Evviva graduates have said:

“I intellectualize everything and I learn all this theory and I do research on that… And then sometimes I’m going but why isn’t actually anything changing? But I feel like the Evviva live sessions were where change actually happened. I felt the change in my body!”

 

“The Havening technique blew my mind. That was really helpful.”

 

After Evviva: “It reminds me to open up myself to new things, new ideas. I realized I taken a step out of my comfort zone without even realizing I had been in one. I’m starting to awaken to the things I really want again, feeling the possibilities again of what might excite me.”

 

“I loved the “Doormat to Diva exercise”  embracing your diva. I was this exciting person that took risks. Now I remember her!”

 

After Evviva: “I started wearing more color. I’ve been going out more and one of my friends said “you’re getting back to like all your fun quirky’ness”. I’m feeling more like myself again.”

About your guide – Sarah Tuckett

Somatic psychotherapist, counsellor, and dance movement therapist based in Brisbane 

Nowadays I help clients get their life back from the grips of anxiety, stress, trauma, and more through 1:1 sessions and group movement therapy.  But back in my 20s and 30s, I was living someone else’s idea of a successful life… and it didn’t work well for me. 

I burnt out in my 30s. Twice

Fearful of not pleasing others and of being ‘not good enough’, I did supposedly prestigious jobs that felt hollow and jarred with the real me. I studied continuously trying to prove my worth through academic achievement. I sought permission and opinions, instead of listening to my own voice. I cowered under the weight of my perfectionism. And my boundaries were pretty porous.

The pressure of living up to false standards of ‘success’ caused me to burn out twice. 

In my 40s I learned to listen to my own voice, my own heart

It wasn’t until I started to listen to my own voice and my own heart, that I started to follow my own path. I haven’t burnt out since. I allowed by myself to be drawn to activities and people. I gave myself permission to press the ‘F*ck it’ button and also rest when needed.

I went through menopause just before my 50th birthday so I understand the challenges some of you might be facing as you transition.

Now in my 50s, it’s my time to help you be more YOU

I want to guide you to listen to your inner voice.  To help you learn how to calm and soothe yourself, rest and relax. Then help you establish your boundaries.  And to help you rediscover what is important to you – your dreams and your desires for your glorious mid-life. 

Qualifications are important to some people, so here are mine:

I have been working full-time as a psychotherapist since 2016. I am a Clinical Professional member of PACFA (membership no’ 23732) and a Professional member of DTAA (DMT Prof) Reg.No. 223-02.  I have a Master of Mental Health (Psychotherapy) from University of Queensland (2018), Graduate Diploma of Somatics and Dance-Movement Therapy (2023), Diplomas of Integrative Somatic Psychotherapy (2015 and 2019), and Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy (2021). For my full qualifications please see About me

Give me 12 weeks to help you re-discover your va-va-voom

I take my role seriously but I’m not a serious psychotherapist

In fact one of my clients described me as a ‘mental martial artist’  

Because I helped her find her strength, her voice and her assertiveness. But I like to think of myself more as a ‘mental Flamenco dancer’ because I help you reconnect with your feminine passions, strength and your inner voice.

Our sense of our self comes from awareness of how we hold our body and move through space. Through movement and posture we remember, feel and change.

I combine techniques from dance-movement therapy, somatic psychotherapy and positive psychology to help you connect with your inner knowing, your feelings and start living more from that place.

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In this program, I’m going to be guiding you like a coach

However, my knowledge and experience as a psychotherapist will underpin everything we do.

I can support if you feel overwhelmed by big emotions, or I can challenge you when it’s needed.

This stuff that’s holding you back from your desired life? It’s time to pack its bags and politely, yet firmly say Adios!

Because it’s your time for you to remember what it is to be in love with life again.

Chapter 1 Safety

Finding a place of safety and calm in body and mind (because so many of us are operating from a place of exhaustion or stuck in fight/flight), which is then impacting our thoughts and ability to function. Learning about your nervous system and simple somatic exercises (breathing, posture, movement) to help you self-regulate

Chapter 2 Recovery

Learning your favorite ways to recover your energy so that you can be glorious once more. Discovering how your hormones (or lack of) impact your mood and thoughts and lifestyle tweakments might help you feel more like yourself again

Chapter 3 Discovery

Rediscovering you. Listening to your heart and body – reconnecting with your inner world through sensations, movement and breathing. Hushing the external chatter so you can hear your inner voice. Connecting with your core happiness, your strengths, values and goals

Chapter 4 Possibility

Working on your mindset and the blocks that stop you from embodying or sharing your brilliance. Saying hello to your anger and learning to hold boundaries. Giving perfectionism and people-pleasing their marching orders. Throw off the shackles of expectation and live the life YOU want

Chapter 5 Creativity

Exploring your version of playfulness, flow and social connection. Helping you have more fun and bring your glorious skills and talents to the world

Chapter 6 Evviva!

Bringing it all together into one glorious masterplan for world domination having a satisfyingly awesome life and sharing your gifts with the world

Why does Evviva work?

Because it uses embodied emotional empowerment

 

Embodiment: feeling connected to your body, having an awareness of your physical self at the same time as your mental or spiritual self

Bringing your awareness outwards from just your mental experience to your ‘whole being’

Creating coherence and alignment between your body and mind

So that you FEEL and KNOW with certainty what you really need and desire

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The Pillars of Evviva!

Evviva! is based on what I consider the 7 pillars of mental health and an overarching concept of embodiment:

  • Embodiment (feeling connected to your body)
  • Movement
  • Mindset
  • Rest
  • Sleep
  • Fun/play
  • Social connection
  • Eating well (I’m not a nutritionist but I’ll be bringing in helpful factoids from peer-reviewed research about how food can support our mental health)

New Audiobook coming soon!