Learn how to tune into your body and make decisions based on what YOU truly want and need… and not what other people want for you.
How come we don’t listen to our bodies all the time?
Your upbringing, your life experiences, and the beliefs you inherit along the way from family, community, and society can sometimes lead you to make decisions based on what you think you ‘ought’ to do, rather than what you really want, or what you really need.
We listen to other people’s views and sometimes absorb them. We internalise them. Then we make decisions that are not really aligned with our values and goals. These decisions feel jarring because they’re not coherent with our inner world.
So how do we stop ourselves from people-pleasing?
How do we make better decisions?
We listen to our bodies.
Your body will be giving you instant feedback about how you feel about a particular decision. If you take the time to slow down, you will notice shifts in physical sensations, breathing, emotions, and more when you think about different options that lie before you.
What if you could learn to listen to your inner voice (again)
Let’s face it, as women we are brought up to care for others, look out for their needs
Which is a really positive thing. The world needs more caring, thoughtful people and less selfish a’holes. But often we diminish our needs because we’re worried about making waves, or causing a fuss.
Over time we forget to listen out for what WE want or need
So we end up doing what everyone else wants, rather than what you really want. And it’s only in hindsight that you see that you hadn’t listened to your own voice.
We are fear-full:
- Fearful of rejection. Worrying about what others might think about us.
- Fearful of failure, of being cancelled, of being judged as ‘less than’.
- Ignoring or silencing your inner voice. Listening to the voices of all those other people around you, taking on their views, their opinions.
- Feeling paralysed by perfectionism.
- People pleasing. Staying small so that others don’t dislike you or worse.
- Allowing people to smash your boundaries so that they think you’re a ‘nice girl’ or a ‘good woman’
I need you to know that this is not all your fault
You are not ‘defective’. There is nothing wrong with you. It’s just that the pressures from society and the frantic pace of life have caused you to disconnect from your inner voice. Your inner knowing.
What if we could slow things down, reconnect you with your heart and your instinct?
I’ve a good feeling that you’d be feeling a lot calmer about making your decision, more at ease with yourself and your life.
Let’s turn down the volume on everything except your own inner voice.
Hi I’m Sarah Tuckett
Somatic psychotherapist, Counsellor, and dance movement therapist based in Brisbane.
Nowadays I help clients get their life back from the grips of anxiety, stress, trauma, and more through 1:1 sessions and group movement therapy. But back in my 20s and 30s, I was living someone else’s idea of a successful life… and it didn’t work well for me.
I burnt out in my 30s. Twice.
Fearful of not pleasing others and of being ‘not good enough’, I did supposedly prestigious jobs that felt hollow and jarred with the real me. I studied continuously trying to prove my worth through academic achievement. I sought permission and opinions, instead of listening to my own voice. I cowered under the weight of my perfectionism. The pressure of living up to false standards of ‘success’ caused me to burn out. Twice. Aged 30 and 35.
I learned to listen to my own voice, my own heart
It wasn’t until I started to listen to my own voice and my own heart, that I started to follow my own path. I haven’t burnt out since.
Now it’s my time to help you
So I want to guide you to listen to your inner voice. To help you see the stories you’ve got running in the background, like redundant computer programs, that colour your decision-making. To help you establish your boundaries. And to help you rediscover what is important to you.
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