Perfectionism is the ultimate buzz-kill Perfectionism stifles our joy, creativity and our relationships with others. The cost of perfectionism makes us exhausted, lonely and empty. So why do we let it run us? Because perfectionism is a defence strategy that protects...
Why we need real connection (as well as online connection) Online news. Social media. Advertisements. Influencers. YouTube. We are swamped by data on a daily basis. We now take in, and generate, more information than we have ever done. No wonder we are feeling...
The seven types of rest (that every A-type professional woman needs reminding of) Sometimes you can wake up from a long weekend and still not feel rested. Exhausted, unmotivated, lack lustre. If you’re an A-type personality like me, it’s probably because you haven’t...
How to make great decisions (or new year resolutions) Free audio recording: Using your body as a barometer to make great decisions “Live your best life!” “Be the best version of yourself!” Ugh. Is anyone else feeling exhausted by this constant pressure to have an...
Sometimes we need help to slow down When we’re frantically busy - working long hours, doing everything for everyone else, or just keeping ourselves overly busy in our social lives - we often ignore how we're feeling emotionally and physically until we fall into a big...
Find safety in your body Mama Mia… here we go again. As another wave of Covid-19 hits Australia, it feels like we will never get back to ‘normal’ life again. This week someone said to me “it feels like I’m looking at a tsunami wave coming towards me, but there’s no...
Why we confuse what is habitual with safe Very often we will confuse what is habitual to us with ‘safe’. It’s why you often choose the same flavour of ice cream instead of trying out a new one. It’s also the reason that we stick to beliefs and patterns of behaviour...
Why does it feel like I'm drowning during a panic attack? People suffering from anxiety or a panic attack will often tell me that they feel a crushing feeling in their chest and that they are aware of breathing really fast and shallow. They report feeling...
Finding my Feminine Power at Fifty A personal story of finding my feminine power, establishing new boundaries, and getting (even more) sweary as I turned fifty “Are you freaking out?” “Yes! I’m totally freaking out!” I was worried about clicking over into my 50s and...
Chronic pain and persistent physical symptoms It’s not all in your head, it’s in your 'BodyMind' “What is your relationship with the sensation?” she asked. Within milliseconds my brain replied, “I am its captive. It has control over me”. The sensation in question was...
The link between chronic stress and depression (and what you can do about it) What we feel and think affects our physiological health and our ability to stay healthy. And conversely, the state of your physical health affects your mental health. The nervous,...
How perfectionism fuels anxiety 15-years ago perfectionism spun my anxiety into warp drive at work. A year of chronic stress and anxiety from that perfectionism tipped me over the edge into exhaustion. I like to think that I have a strong work ethic and a drive to do...